Too many women are seduced by the common image in the media today of the sexy, high-powered, important, ball-busting career woman. She’s hot, she’s smart, she doesn’t take any crap, and she knows she’s got it all. She doesn’t need a man. Think Samantha or Miranda from Sex and the City. About half of the heroines in chick flicks fit this mold (the other half are desperate for a man and do nothing but sit around waiting for Mr. Right to magically appear). They always end up with some man who surprises them and is “nothing that they want”, but inevitably, the man who starts off in the beginning unwilling to be Ms. Powerful’s doormat always ends up, in the end, becoming just that. After seeing that for so long, women start to emulate those women. They expect their relationships to work that way. They expect to be able to get away with being a ball-busting bitch and have their man just happily take it.
There’s just a small problem.
No man will ever be happy in that kind of relationship, and neither will any woman.
No. I agree with Cassy - this sort of relationship is a recipe for disaster! It's insulting to both parties, and I'm truly astonished at how many women have turned into disgusting and unattractive harpies because they've bought into this satanic (yes, I meant satanic!) worldview.
One of the things the Bible says about this is in 1 Peter 3:3-4:
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
Women are not supposed to be strident, vicious, selfish, arrogant and condescending witches (true, men aren't supposed to be testosterone-addicted, overbearing boors either, but we're dealing with women at the moment)! How much better to be calm and gracious, firmly stating your views and wishes with courtesy and respect to whomever you're addressing? Isn't that how women want to be treated, with courtesy and respect? Well, then, if you're not willing to give it, then don't expect to get it!
If Megan Fox and "womyn" like her want to behave like screeching harridans, I certainly can't stop them. But, like I tell my daughter, "You can choose your actions, but you cannot choose the consequences."
Unless Ms. Fox has a drastic change of attitude, I suspect her consequences might include a long string of shattered relationships, cauterized emotions, and a very lonely old age.
Great post. I just finished reading a book called "Maxims for Men." As it is both humorous and uncompromising on the foibles of men, my testosterone-poisoned wife (me; two sons) is currently reading it, and laughing her posterior off.
Posted by: James Young | September 01, 2009 at 01:42 PM
Interesting example in Megan Fox. Why in the world would any attractive woman --- and I am excepting those for whom it could not do much more damage --- scar herself with a tattoo? Why would any real man be interested in a woman of that sort? Why would any real woman tolerate a man so lacking in gonads?
Posted by: James Young | September 01, 2009 at 01:45 PM
Well, truthfully, tattoos per se don't bother me as much as Ms. Fox's attitude does. She displays a very mean and crooked spirit when she utters this sort of foolishness. It makes me very sad, because I know there will be many young women who will want to follow her example, and will make extremely poor choices because of it.
I myself am blessed by a marriage to a strong man who isn't afraid to be gentle; who deeply loves, respects and appreciates me; and who is a wonderful husband and father. It grieves me deeply when women don't look for these qualities and don't care to be worthy of those qualities in a man. My guy is so wonderful that there is only one goal more important to me than to be a loving and true wife to him (and that first goal is to be a gracious woman who lives for God with all her might).
What's the phrase? "Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes to the bone"? I submit that, for all her surface beauty, Megan Fox is actually a very ugly woman.
Posted by: Kat | September 01, 2009 at 02:03 PM